This week: Domestic Abuse and Perception of same………..

Don’t ‘like’ my posts…. As I say ‘don’t ‘like’ my posts (if you think by doing so will draw attention to you/your pain) Do, however, read, consider and make contact, in absolute confidence, if you have been affected by any of the issues discussed in today’s blog. http://myrelationshipbreakdown.com/contact/ 087 6959346. Domestic Abuse and perceptions, Last…

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What is myrelationshipbreakdown.com?

What is myrelationshipbreakdown.com? My relationshipbreakdown.com is a personal journey and progression for me. I have been separated and divorced. It is a process that is lonely and conflictual and it damages people and relationships involved. My journey to becoming a Family Mediator has been a long and windy road and in some ways I wish…

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Don’t ‘like’ my posts!!!!

Recently during conversations, some people said that although they like my posts they cannot ‘like’ them, and cannot ‘like’ the social media pages. Of course not. Liking or sharing a post means that there is an acknowledgement of an issue. Sometimes we simply can’t acknowledge the issue or the possibility of one.   Research will…

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The deepest hatred grows out of broken love…

‘The deepest hatred grows out of broken love….To have to recognise that a deep love- and not only a sexual love-was an error, a failure of intuition, so compromises us before ourselves, so splits the security and unity of our self -conception, that we are unavoidably made the object of this intolerable feeling pay for…

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It’s the start of a new month

It’s the start of a new month, and I cannot believe its autumn already. Over the last couple of weeks we have looked at what mediation is and why it works . To look at this again Mediation is a process to resolve disputes where a mediator (third party) supports parties in conflict to have…

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My journey to becoming a Family Mediator is a personal one

My journey to becoming a Family Mediator is a personal one, It’s been a long and windy road and in some ways I wish I understood what mediation was sooner in my life. As a very wise person (my dad)  often said to me (and obviously with youth I didn’t believe him) ‘with age comes…

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Maintaining Children’s Attachments

After separation, the parent who leaves often worries that they will lose contact with the children and is resolute to spend vast volumes of time with them on a consistent basis. If at this stage there is not co-operation between the resident parent , the non-resident parent maybe restricted to a negligible role in the…

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Myrelationshipbreakdown.com for family……

Assumptions cause conflict, families make assumptions, Differing values can lead to conflict, Differences in the way you were brought up can result in conflict. Differing expectations can lead to conflict. Knowledge and ability to deal with conflict can result in conflict.   When we think of our family of origin how does that reflect on…

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Voice of the child

Mediation can help parents focus on the voice of the child within the separation/divorce process. When parents (ex-partners) are feeling betrayed and disappointed at the loss of the marital relationship it can be hard to focus on the needs of children. It is vitally important to remember that children suffer the loss of the family…

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For the sake of the children……….

And so Christmas is over, Santa has called and it’s back to reality.  What does this mean for the family staying together for the sake of the children? “ Monday, December 26, 2016 More than 1,000 children contacted Childline on Christmas Day. The ISPCC say some kids contacted them as they were finding Christmas tough…

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